You probably haven’t noticed that my blog posts are less frequent than usual, but I have. At my most productive I was churning out about three posts a week, but now I’m struggling to complete even one a week, and this little fact follows me around on my shoulder all day long.
I also counted the ten last posts that I’ve written personally, and only two were specifically related to parenting. The other eight definitely mentioned my family, but they were on general topics like food and books and style and travel. Can I still call this a parenting blog then? Parents, by their nature, are (mostly) multi-faceted humans, made up of different interests beyond their children and their immediate needs, so it’s natural that their blogs would be too.
But every time something happens with my kids these days, or they say something cute or funny, I think before I write, and wonder if they’d like me sharing it, or be okay with looking back on it one day. Part of this is about them getting older, and I know I’m certainly not the first to feel this way – I’ve seen a similar thing mentioned countless times on other parenting blogs that I follow, as their kids grow from babies and toddlers into little people.
Rachel can now read, which is wonderful, but she also now comes up behind me while I’m typing, and starts reading over my shoulder. I deserve privacy, but then so does she. There are high chances her friends’ parents or her teachers may have found this blog (and Ben’s friends and teachers too) – which is mostly the idea of a blog: you write so that people will read it, but once more people actually start reading it, you get a bit spooked. I know, being a blogger (or writer in general really) is not exactly straight forward.
So I’ve been playing around with rebranding this blog: taking it out of the realm of parenting, but then do I change its name? How do I position myself? I will always write about my kids and my family though, they are a rich and beautiful part of my life, and I’ve come to the conclusion that parents don’t just need blogs when their babies are in nappies. They need them as their kids grow and they have to grapple with homework, schools, bullying, tweens, teens and beyond. These are difficult topics, and parenting may get less physically demanding, but that certainly doesn’t mean it always gets easier.
I also think you can write about parenting topics that relate to your life, and what you’re grappling with right now – without getting too personal or specific. That’s my plan anyway. And I don’t want to force it – if nothing parenting-related comes up for a few weeks, then “lifestyle content” it is. As a good friend just said to me, only blog when you want to, otherwise you’ll come to resent it. This was my happy space that I created to express myself, and I shouldn’t feel too much pressure to churn out content.
There will be always be parenting bloggers who blog more frequently, with much higher readership figures than me and I accepted that long ago. What I write doesn’t appeal to lots of people – it’s “very niche” as that same friend kindly put it once (i.e small;). But I hope you continue to come here for the reasons that you always have, even though I’m not posting quite as regularly, or writing as many parenting-related posts. Who knows? Everything could change in a few months and my blogging could become a lot more frequent again.
Anyway, thanks as always for reading, and for all your positive feedback and lovely comments – they make my heart very happy and put an instant smile on my face.
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