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August Favourites

August 7, 2018 | 2 Comments

So it’s been a while since one of my catch up type posts, but today seemed like a good day to write one. It was a bit of a bleh Monday to be honest. Left my umbrella at home on the one day it bucketed down. A lone pimple blossomed between my eyebrows and I think it gave me a day long headache. Got the times mixed up and sent my husband to pick up my daughter 30 minutes too early from school (I swear I have selective amnesia because every week I get confused – it doesn’t help that it’s different on every day!).

Anyway, I have much to be grateful for, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be real and speak about the days that are not so good, where we feel like we may combust from stress (or as my business partner put it: “my head feels like it’s full of bees”).

But without further ado, here are some cool favourites to distract me (and you), and hopefully quieten the bees:

  • One day when I’m a proper grown up I want this in my house, and on my table. For the love of cutlery it is a thing of beauty.
  • On that note, what are your views on money? It can be a tricky subject, so it was cool to answer some questions recently with Simply, for a series they’re doing on women and money for Women’s Month. Have a read
  • I found this article fascinating, which a reader shared on my Facebook page when I asked people how they plan to reward their child for achievements. It’s long, but my main takeaway was that we need to start praising effort instead of achievement. The writer cites research saying that if we hone in on and praise the ‘7 out of 10’ our child got for their test, they will be much less likely to try a new different test after that one, as they’re terrified of failure and “lowering” their original mark (as well as our opinions of them). But if we focus on effort instead (“you studied so hard – well done!”), they will be more likely to attempt that second (much harder) test, learning and expanding their skills as they go along. This is a simple example but apparently doing this repeatedly helps encourage a “growth mindset” in them, which can bring them more happiness and success as adults.
  • Thanks to Cassey for forwarding me this beautiful piece on the notion of bringing more calm into our lives. It’s the reason I get a bit annoyed when the counter tops are full of stuff or when clutter builds up on a shelf. I also really liked her view on sentimental items – with us moving house so often in the last few years, I’ve been carrying with me a lot of sentimental things that no longer serve me, but I held on to them because they were from my childhood or reminded me of my mom. It’s important to remember that we don’t necessarily need those things to have memories, and sometimes, letting them go is hugely beneficial.
  • I loved this piece by Nikki Lincoln on relationships and marriage. It’s hard to keep a relationship going – it requires constant sacrifice and it gets especially hard when you have young children (well at least it did for me). Nikki provides some great tips to help you put your relationship first (you should also follow her on Instagram, her videos are so honest and hilarious:). Who are your favourite Instagrammers? Leave me a comment as I’m always looking for cool people to follow!
  • I’m loving testing out all the recipes in Jamie’s ‘5 Ingredients’ cookbook. The first recipe we made was way too small when it came to portion size (the omelette with chilli), but the rest of the recipes we’ve made have all been fab. Tonight we had the baked mushrooms with roasted tomatoes, sage, garlic and cheese – it was simple to make and ultra delicious.
  • I’ve just finished Recipes for Love and Murder by Sally Andrews and it was fabulous. Wise and warm, witty and page turning, it made me smile and cry and it also made me hungry (there are delicious recipes included!).
  • A few of you have been asking me about that retro digital alarm clock I got given for my birthday – so here is a link to it on Takealot

Enjoy Women’s Day on Thursday – hope you take the time to acknowledge the women of South Africa’s past, plus our place in society now, and how much work we have to do to secure a safe and equitable future for all women in SA.

xxx

2 Comments

  • Reply Nikki Lincoln August 8, 2018 at 2:37 pm

    Thank you so much for the mention B! I loved the Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives article and it’s something I often notice with Sophie, she enjoys praise for her efforts but I can tell that she also views her effort as more important than the result. Often she will say: “I tried really hard” or “I did my best” or “I was being kind” in her mind, the action is much more important than the result and I love the mindset that tells us to lean more towards that way of thinking. We try so hard to reinforce that doing your best is important, and success is great, but there is as much to learn from failing. Great post!

    • Reply Belinda Mountain August 10, 2018 at 10:19 am

      Yes to that part about failing! I read something from a friend of mine (who is a parent and a psychologist) – and apparently making failure more of a “normal” part of our lives is hugely important. Some families have started even going round the table each night asking everyone to list one thing they failed at today, then they’ll discuss it, think of ways to get better at it, and also talk about what they learned from it. I think I’m going to try that!

    Let me know what you think!